She fell madly in love with me, or at least she said she did. I certainly fell for her, and, if you could see and talk to her you would know why. On the other hand, if you could see and talk to me … I was so smitten by…

The most miserable people I know can’t wait to retire, aka not work, and “enjoy themselves”. When I ask why, they point to an overbearing boss and workload, a skewed and unfair salary policy, and that elusive bit of corporate chicanery ‘office politics’ that they are tired of playing. Then…

To the big three no-nos of politics, religion, and sex, your income and net worth, plans to retire, anything negative about management and your peers (a peer may be your boss someday), and how much you hate your job (nobody loves a grouch). All can come back and bite in…

“Hmm. Not your problem, is it?” mused my unseen analyst from behind my head as I was lying supine on her couch while allowing my unconscious thoughts to run amok. I extended her musing with the part of the serenity prayer that asks for the wisdom to know the difference…

I squandered the first 40 years of my life before I realized that Epicurus, the Greek philosopher who lived and taught in Athens some 2400 years ago, had it right when he said that it is our duty to maximize our happiness before we die. Maybe good old Epi had…

Nurture your health, wealth, and relationships. All become more precious as we age, and all combine synergistically to create that elusive feeling we call happiness. Health and wealth are dissected in many books and articles, constant subjects in publications from AARP and other organizations that play to an aging population…

A psychologist/friend is fond of saying that “circumstances create decisions”. I remind her often that the reverse is as true: that decisions create circumstances. Perhaps both of us are echoing Stephen R. Covey, the success guru behind Seven Habits of Highly Effective People: “I am not a product of my circumstances…

Martinis. I loved ’em. Then my doc put me on a pill that went to war with Big Booze in favor of Big Pharma. In fact, booze and this dastardly pill put me to sleep and in a spin, akin to a hard knock on the noggin. That’s the…

Many of our great thinkers say so. Aristotle, for example, said that happiness is the ultimate goal of human life and it is attainable for most of us. He defined happiness as a lasting state of contentment, purpose, realizing our potential, and modifying our behavior to be the best version…